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All
parents hate to watch their children suffer. MindAffects gives parents
a way of proactively creating good for their children without becoming
overly protective.
Lin's
Story:
To set the
scenario, our son was recently hired by the stock brokerage firm
of his dreams--for the job of his dreams. However, upon being offered
the position, he was told that he had to take a federally mandated
6-hour C-7 test to sell securities. The firm would give him six
weeks to study. If he did not pass the test, he would be immediately
terminated. He studied. It was brutal, all encompassing, and all
consuming. Five days before The Exam, he told us he didn't feel
prepared, he was going to ask for an extension. He was experiencing
unimaginable stress for a kid we had always known to be confident
and unflappable. (back to top)
That night my husband and I lay in bed, held hands and aloud verbalized
our need. We did The Process. Together. What needed changing? His
belief in himself and his self-confidence had evaporated. He was
beginning to concentrate on failing instead of success. He was anticipating
the emotional devastation of termination. He did a 180 degree turn.
We also wanted him to take the test as scheduled and not request
an extension.
What did we fear? We feared he would listen to his inner self doubts,
continue to flounder, and fail the exam. What did we want? We wanted
him to take the exam as scheduled, go into the exam rested, confident,
retaining all of the knowledge he had studied, and Pass With Flying
Colors. Excelling with a fabulous grade.
Why did you think you couldn't have it? We were afraid he would
succumb to his negative inner voice, his subconscious, and sabotage
himself.
How did you alter this belief? We did The Process. We felt The Process.
We wanted him to banish all of his self doubt, retain the knowledge
he had studied, rereading each question and taking the full 6 hours
to take the test. We visualized in our minds' eyes him passing The
Exam. We visualized his relief, his excitement, his pride, his joy.
What did you ultimately create? He walked into The Exam relaxed
and peaceful. He took the full 6-hours to take the exam, going over
each question twice. He passed with flying colors with a very impressive
score.
You know Joanne, we DO The Process for the Biggest of the Big and
the Smallest of the Small. I remember your story about when Lisa
was graduating, David was detained at the office, and even with
his Black Stealth Bullet, the chances of making it through traffic
and arriving at her party was slim. You were frustrated and annoyed.
You did The Process. You arrived at the celebration with minutes
to spare.
Meg's
Story:
What needed
changing:
My beautiful, intense daughter had been getting deeper and deeper
into the dark side of things as a teenager--trying out bulimia,
self-cutting and potentially suicide (writing notes, dwelling on
it). Her anger, blame, fear, hate were directed at herself, at her
peers, and at me. Our relationship needed changing and both of us
needed to feel safer, happier and more loved.
I was afraid she would never be happy and never stop hating herself;
she would alienate everyone and thus never get help. I was afraid
she would kill herself, possibly kill me and/or her little brother.
And I was afraid of other people's judgment of me as a parent and
her as a person. (back to top)
Joanne actually guided me into finding the basics of what I want--for
both of us to feel safe, loved and happy. I wanted Molly to feel
deeply loved and understood by me and by those she wants to love
and understand her. Also, I wanted Molly to feel support and acceptance
from lots of people: teachers, (new) friends, other adults--to really
have a positive, active network of people who respect her, encourage
her, and draw out her positive traits. I wanted her to be living
in a safe, positive environment, but not with me, because I wanted
the time and space to strengthen my clarity and centeredness.
I would also love to have Molly be fun and entertaining and to make
me laugh. I'd like her to be able to develop relationships that
spark her excitement and enthusiasm, nurture her talents and self-esteem
and that are satisfying in healthy ways.
I thought I couldn't have all this happen because I'm the Mom, and
I felt like I'm supposed to make our lives work together and never
give up on it, and I just couldn't make it work. I felt like I was
dealing with the master manipulator, so there was no possibility
of trust.
In digging deep into my childhood, this doubt was supported too
because I had no one to help me when I was in deep, unsolvable pain,
trauma and trouble as a little girl. I was in the black hole and
no human person could pull me out, or even look at me, find me or
hear me.
I couldn't have it in the present because counselors, psychologists,
friends, other parents, teachers, all the work we did together and
apart wasn't working fast enough or just wasn't working.
My first step was to call upon my Soul to hold the vision of what
I wanted for me - both of us essentially safe, loved and happy,
receiving support and understood (see earlier paragraph). I also
had to ask my Soul to bypass my ego messages. This was an overwhelming
situation, and I wasn't really able to come up with what I wanted
without coaching from Joanne, or why I couldn't have it. Finding
why I couldn't have it came from this reworking and re-telling of
it, so now I'll go in and continue my process of creating with my
new information.
Changes happened quickly. For about the first week I kept looking
at what I wanted to create for Molly and a basic skeleton of what
I wanted for me. I continually talked to my soul and asked it to
do the work and also asked it to help me ignore my ego.
The creation is still in progress - Molly started living with my
ex-husband right away. He agreed to be the parent. He has helped
her find some jobs--babysitting, working for a friend's mom--he
went and picked up a job application for her. They started sharing
and communicating. Molly thanked him for all the things he taught
her as a little girl. They were sharing their common interest in
music. On her own, Molly pulled Brian's long unused motorcycle out
of the shed and started a detailed cleaning of it, spurring Brian
to put his energy into it as well. They have had some nice conversations
and Brian has been excited while telling me about their renewing
relationship (this was a side issue I created: Brian and Molly building
a relationship in which they share interests and have stimulating
discussions, so Brian gets a lot of good reinforcement for his great
parenting).
At her babysitting job, the employer gave Molly a lot of great positive
feedback about her work and the extra cleaning and straightening
up she did.
Molly had wanted to test out of algebra; she had let the studying
slide until the last week before school, but she then studied every
night and took the test and passed in to geometry. Her math teacher
said she'd work with Molly once a week to cover a few concepts that
weren't in the materials she had given her to study. She's getting
support from teachers and building self-esteem by challenging herself
and following through on goals.
I've also heard some new voices on the phone asking for Miss Molly--so
new friends are coming in to the picture.
These are some of the changes coming about. For me--I'm living in
a different energy field. I've been sharing the MindAffects process
weekly with a friend, so I'm getting support and fresh insights
on the level I need. I have also started looking at Molly in a way
that helps me stay clear and centered, and it's entertaining too:
I see her as an actress in the role of a teenager--trying on the
styles and thoughts and manners--you know. It helps immensely. Our
communications have been brief; Molly has told me she wants to live
with me. She says I'm a much better parent for her. I keep it short,
and have the building of the relationship on my agenda for near
future processing.
This is definitely an ongoing process. My next part includes me
feeling really comfortable and loved and respected around Molly
and vice versa.
NOTE FROM JOANNE: The reason I initially
did not have Meg do the complete MindAffects process was because
she was really in a frantic state, as anyone facing her child's
suicidal symptoms might be. It was apparent to me that Meg's terror
was too gripping to do a thorough processing, so, as described in
MindAffects Journal and the How to Journal with MindAffects
audio recording, I simply had her talk with her soul. Meg will
still have to do the complete steps of MindAffects to maintain the
loving experiences that she's already created. By the way, Meg deserves
a round of applause for her sustained, loving focus. It would have
been easy for her to slip backward, but she didn't. Congratulations,
Meg!
MindAffects
can be used for all sorts of issues that arise in one's life.
Kati's
Story:
I was faced
with a job change that was not to my liking. It was in an area of
study that I did not have adequate expertise. I was afraid of being
forced into this position with no way out!
I wanted to have a job teaching art part time, and I wanted to be
able to continue working on my own paintings.
This wasn't possible because there were no positions for a part
time art teacher anywhere! If I wanted a job I was just going to
have to settle for the position I knew I would hate. (back
to top)
Although, I was frantic about the possibility of teaching something
besides art, deep down I felt that everything would work out, so
I started creating! I visualized how the position I wanted would
look and I started to network with everyone I knew who could possibly
have an art position available.
I did create what I wanted! I was offered and gladly accepted a
part time art position at a local school! It looks very much like
what I visualized. with a few twists!
Michele's
Story:
What needed
changing? I wanted to have a committed, loving relationship in my
life. What did I fear? I was afraid of recreating a relationship
that was hurtful, untrustworthy and unloving.
What did I want? I wanted a man who would be devoted to me, who
would love me, value me, honor me and someone that I could in turn,
cherish and love back. Why did I think I couldn't have it? Because
I had been told as a child that I was unlovable. (back
to top)
How did I alter this belief? I provided my subconscious with visualizations
of experiences where I was loved, being loved and loving back. I
focused on the feelings that I wanted to create in my life. What
did you ultimately create? A committed, loving, trusting, monogamous
relationship. We will be married in May!
Kathleen's
Story:
I often forget
how easy it really is-the magic within us, the magic within this
universe.
Occasionally
I'm remind when I try too hard and create my own struggle. For some
reason, I feel I have to try really hard when all I really have
to do is think it.
I needed a place
to live. My roommate sold the condo. Then I got laid off. I stayed
with a friend for a couple of months. I really wanted my own place:
airy, light, with a view of the ocean... and then one day there
it was, staring me in the face.
The universe
had presented me with what I had been thinking. Everything about
it was so clear-except for the price. I couldn't possibly afford
that rent. Why am I even calling, and why am I looking at it a second
time? I didn't move on it, and I ended up moving into my second
choice for a year. A very long year. They say everything happens
for a reason, and that maybe it wasn't meant to be. Well, my take
on that was different this time around. There was definitely a lesson
to be learned here.
I resisted what
I created, mostly out of fear, and I realized it after the fact.
I spend the better part of that year beating myself up for not moving
on taking what I'd created with my thoughts.
(Lesson #2:
Don't beat yourself up. Just re-create!) (back to
top)
Then one day I decided to stop focusing on what I didn't want,
which was what I had, and start thinking about what I really wanted.
I've learned that what you think about you bring about. I was able
to verbalize with my support group of women what I did want. I want
white and lots of light. I want lots of windows. I want a floor
covered in something other than carpet. I want French doors and
a yard. And I want it to be in the same area as the last place I
didn't move on. I liked that location (Laguna Beach). Oh, yeah,
and one more thing. If I'm going to live in Laguna Beach, I may
as well be able to see the ocean from my place. Why not!
I was at work
one day, and I wasn't feeling all that well. More so than that,
I really didn't have that much to do. I have never been one to abuse
sick time, but everything inside of me, everything I felt said,
Go home! So I did. It's very important to pay attention to what
you're feeling, rather than the logic of it.
Driving home,
I said to myself: Maybe I'll find a place to live today.
I stopped for
chicken noodle soup, went home, and did not want to go to my dark
little room I was renting and be depressed with the discontent of
my being there. So I took a walk down to the beach. On the way back,
I found a place to live!
I saw a For
Rent sign with a phone number and address. The place was right there
on the corner. I walked by and thought: It looks kind of dark, but
I have to start somewhere.
I made a call,
looked at it, and before I knew it, I was living there. The section
for rent was around back facing the ocean with all the light I wanted.
I walked in, and the first thing I noticed was that it was white,
and there was lots of light. There were lots of windows, and the
entire place did not have carpet, but white marble tile. And it
had a French door and a yard. Not only was it in that same location
as the other place I liked, but I could see that place from my new
place. And last, but not least, it had an ocean view!
It's amazing
how what you put out into the Universe will manifest if you get
out of the way and just let it happen. Even if you think it is impossible!
The couple I
now rent from purchased the house two months before I moved in.
The space I occupy was a dark wooded office until I put my request
out into the universe. Unbeknownst to me, it was about that time
they started building it to my specifications! The new owners turned
the lower portion of the house into a beautiful new white living
space complete with a new kitchen and bathroom.
There are so
many other blessings about this place that I didn't even think to
ask for, but they all fit me so well. And what's amazing to me is
that it was all so effortless. It just flowed, and I followed.
One last thing!
Don't be afraid to dream and wish and ask. I'm so thankful I did
as I sit here outside my new place, watching the moonlight glisten
off the ocean. (back to top)
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